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I found the most amazing post today and the timing for it couldn’t have been better. http://www.positivelypositive.com/2014/04/24/who-are-the-friends-of-your-soul/
I used to think that friends were the people who unconditionally comforted you when you felt wronged, showed up for you when you felt needy and insecure, joined you in righteous indignation when you felt angry, and validated you when life isn’t going your way. I thought friends would be unconditional cheerleaders, and you would always feel better after being with a friend. But lately, I’ve realized that my most valuable friends are the ones who stand for my soul, even when that means saying something my ego doesn’t want to hear.
When a friend stands for your soul, she holds you accountable to your highest potential and expects you to do the same for her. When a friend stands for your soul, she understands how your ego operates- and loves and accepts you in spite of – even because of – what she knows. But she doesn’t sit by complacently when she watches you create your own suffering. She calls you on it lovingly and pushes you in the direction of your highest self.
No “Story Fondling”
When a friend stands for your soul, she holds you and comforts you when you feel wronged, but she doesn’t engage in story fondling with you. She knows there’s no need to hash and rehash your sob story, because doing so only keeps you stuck. As soon as you’ve grieved and lashed out and you feel strong enough, a friend who stands for your soul reminds you that it’s time to end your pity party and be in the solution. She even helps you find meaning in whatever left you feeling hurt or angry because she knows even tragedies aren’t random, that life is purposeful, even when it’s hard.
When a friend stands for your soul, he’s willing to say what others won’t, the things people might be whispering behind your back because they don’t love you enough to say it to your face. But he never intends to be critical, and he’s never, ever mean. He is wind beneath your wings, helping to lift you higher, and he trusts that you will give him the same gift.
A Soul Friend May Leave
I used to think a real friend would stick around forever and never ever abandon you, that if we were real friends, we’d still be together when we’re both eighty-five in our rocking chairs. But now I know this isn’t the case. When a friend stands for your soul, she might have to leave the relationship, because she has been patient as she watches you choose your small self over your larger self- again and again. At some point, she can’t be true to her own soul unless you share the same commitment to trying to live in alignment with yours. Standing for your soul might require tough love. But the invitation is always there. She will be steadfast in standing for your soul, even as you stray off your path. She will still be there for you when you’re finally ready to accept the invitation to come home to Who You Really Are.
Standing for the soul of a friend isn’t easy. It requires uncomfortable conversations. It would be easier to just say yes to your friend’s ego. But when a friend unconditionally loves you and stands for your soul, it takes courage. It can be disruptive. There might be tears and hurt feelings. But a friend stands for your soul with great love and gentleness, even as she says what you don’t want to hear. Real friends don’t judge. They elevate you while they illuminate the parts of you that you hoped they’d never discover.
Soul Friends Guide You Home
It’s all worth it though, because these soul friends help you grow, and they invite you to grow with them. They are your guiding lights during dark nights of the soul, taking you by the hand and returning you to yourself. They cheer with you when you make difficult choices while standing for your own soul. These relationships are dynamic, ever-changing, ever-upleveling, ever-celebrating the magnificence of who you are becoming on your spiritual path. These friends are the guideposts leading you to freedom, and they enjoy the journey with you. They laugh with you, dance with you, gaze at the heavens with you, and revel in sunsets with you. They get quiet with you. They listen to your vulnerable stories and tell you theirs. They keep the heart open with you, and in the communion of two open hearts, you find connection, belonging, vitality, and joy. If you’re lucky, they even bring chocolate.
30 Active Days Challenge
I am starting a new challenge for myself to be active EVERY DAY for 30 days!
By doing this, I hope to achieve stronger, healthier, happier version of me. When I see others doing similar things it inspires me to strive for something better and I always think that we can be stronger by inspiring each other. The goal of this challenge is to be present in the now, to be aware of the current situation, the way it is now and take active steps to change it.
That means facing the truth which is a challenge in itself. But I strongly believe that we can uncover and be aware of topics that are tough to face, with truth, without sugar coating it, but without shame, guilt of judgment. We can admit to ourselves first and foremost the decisions we’ve made that brought us to the point we’re now .
In my personal experience, I’ve come to realize that weight issues are more than just physical, sometimes it helps to identify mental and emotional reasons why we make certain decisions that have direct effect on our bodies. Once we’ve become aware and identified the reasons and underlying issues, it’s time to take action!
Our health is our most precious possession we will ever have. If you’re not happy where you’re now with your physical abilities or just an overall level of happiness, it’s time to do something about it. This is not the time to shift the responsibility or blame, this is the time to accept responsibility, because no one else is responsible for our health. Whatever happened in the past, the evens, the tragedies, the struggles, people who hurt us or didn’t take care of us, none of that matters…what matters is you taking back the control of your life!
Taking responsibility for becoming stronger and tougher, for pushing yourself to do better. Why should you push yourself or become tougher? Well, has the other way brought you the results you desire to see? To me, if you honestly cannot find a reason, let the reason be the fact that you’re a spiritual warrior, traveling through time and space in this physical body, having this human experience for a short time on earth which you should make the most of.
Because I love myself, I will push myself to be active every day. Whether it is doing stretches every morning, taking stairs at work, maybe walking for 5 minutes if that’s all you can do. Whatever you level of fitness is, you can gradually increase your activity little by little every couple of days. By the end of the 30 days, you will gain more strength and endurance and you have developed a new habit of being active. So many things in our daily lives that we do are simply habits. We get used to certain emotions, whether they’re benefiting us or not, we get used to certain foods because they comfort us, or a drink at the end of the night because it helps us to relax and let go. But what if you could develop new habits that would give you similar feelings?
It is a known fact that people feel better after working out, not only do you feel endorphin but you feel a certain sense of self pride, or feeling attractive when you have mastered a certain dance move, yoga pose, remembered to drink lots of water and now your skin feels so much healthier, or maybe you feel good after you have meditated even if it’s just for a few minutes. Aren’t we addicted in a way, to a certain degree to those good feelings as well?
And wouldn’t it make you feel great? Wouldn’t you enjoy life just a little bit more because you simply feel better in your own body? Wouldn’t you just feel more alive? Isn’t it worth it?
I think it is. Let the challenge begin! Isn’t it exciting to start something new that will transform you?
Breathe deeply as often as you can, love every cell of your body, the way it is now, love your legs which allow you to walk, think about a person in a wheel chair that would give anything to be able to do that, or do any exercises necessary to be able to walk more, drink the pure water, love the fruits and veggies, think about elevating yourself to a higher vibration, imagine yourself from a perspective of being a spiritual being, become addicted to health and beauty! Not pain, suffering and sorrow…think about it. What are you predominantly think and feel? If it’s not health, love, peace and beauty, ask yourself why are you thinking about those things? How are they going to help you become the best version of you? You cannot stop wars, change politics, end world hunger, abuse, cruelty and unkindness but you can change your own world!
Not many people talk about addictions in a positive way, we only look at it as a negative thing, but I think that sometimes it can be used as a positive. To make a drastic change it will require drastic measures. If we realize that we’ve become addicted to something that doesn’t serve us, like feeling of sorrow, we start seeing it all around us, in the wars going on, in the eyes of the women who had a hard life, in our own life, but where does it lead? To more sorrow? What if you changed the channel and start developing an obsession about health and beauty? Looking up videos about beautiful places, works of art, music, recipes for juices and smoothies, exercises, dance, types of tai chi or breathing exercises?
Celebrate life, celebrate yourself and your own unique human experience, make the most of it, it’s the only one we’ve got!
Love, Peace, Beauty and Light to all ♥